• Home
  • Contact
  • DMCA
  • Privacy Policy

Latest Nigerian Movies

Download Nigerian Movies Online

  • Home
  • Biography
  • Nollywood Articles
  • Business
    • Nigeria
      • Business
  • Naija Music
  • Movies
  • Motivation
  • Download Comedy Videos
  • HIRE ME
You are here: Home / Career / I Have No Idea What I’m Doing With My Life: Discover You!

I Have No Idea What I’m Doing With My Life: Discover You!

by Nollywood 20 Comments

ShareTweetGoogleWhatsappPinterestDiggLinkedinRedditStumbleuponTelegramFlipboard

If you are one of the many people all over the world who still say: I have no idea what I’m doing with my life, how do i get started when i have no idea what i enjoy?, I have no idea what I am doing with my life and I am totally fine with it- this post is for you. But, if you are among those people who already know what they are doing at all times, feel free to stop reading. You probably have a job, a list of clients waiting for you, a project, and a group of students awaiting your teachings or a solid team awaiting your unfailingly perfect skills.

Although I would love you to stick around because nobody- I mean nobody knows perfectly what they’re doing 100% of the time.

The “I have no idea what I’m doing” problem is one of the biggest challenges of almost every human. We all have our fears and if one of them is NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO WITH ONE’S LIFE, it becomes a bigger problem over time.

It is true that seeing a counsellor could help figure out what you need to do with your life but what if it doesn’t? Does that really count? Others seize moment when a motivation speakers pushes the “DISCOVER YOURSELF BUTTON” and the rest just rely on friends, parents, elders, family, or just pray about it and some just-you-know; sit it out!

The earlier you discover yourself, the better it is for your confidence boost. It’s not too late to re-discover what to do with your life, wouldn’t you agree with me? Here are some very practical and easy ways to combat this bad syndrome while still “DISCOVERING HIDDEN GEMS WITHIN YOU”.

How To Solve The :i have no idea what i’m doing Syndrome

i have no idea what i'm doing

  1. Stop Thinking Everyone except Yourself Has “MADE IT”

Remember those times your friend bought a new car and thought you should be the first person to know about it?, your college friend whose every picture features bundles of dollars Or the one time your closest pal at work got married and you only saw “pretty instagram photos online”? The feelings that came after these moments made you feel like a complete failure.

If you work at a job, you wouldn’t be new to this kind of feeling. You constantly feel every one(that person who is so great at running meetings, a colleague of yours who brings up new interesting ideas and that co-worker who is always successful with landing big clients) except yourself got everything settled.

But wait… I understand that sometimes you might feel like everyone is a lot better at what they currently do than you are. But the sad truth is that THEY’RE NOT! Yes, that is right. Get that into your thick head.

Nurturing such thoughts is not only bad but disastrous too. Thinking that all of your friends, a family member or colleagues have their whole life figured out isn’t an easy feeling to contend with. Comparing yourself to others and worrying that you don’t measure up on a frequent basis will only hold you back at work and hit at your self confidence level.

So try this: The next time you notice yourself thinking out loud why everyone around you seems to perform excellently at tasks except you, just ask yourself, “How is this making my life better?” Then look for a positive thought, one that puts your worried mind at rest. That new thought could be something along the lines of “I don’t need to compare myself with anyone ever again” or “With more dedication and hard work, I will become better”. Whatever thing you think; avoid negativity and stay with positivity.

  1. Stop Believing You Have to Have Everything Figured Out

Many a time when I begin brainstorming ideas or topics to write on, I usually find it really hard to settle on a specific topic. But then I don’t allow this to discourage me; I go ahead and write. As soon as I start, words begin to form sentences and sentences begin to project the initial ideas. I may not hit the “BULL’S EYE” every time, but I trust that I am on the right path, and this belief always takes me somewhere. And here’s the thing-it’s not true that knowing what you’re doing all the time is better than not knowing.

Starting a website, trying out new things, taking on a scary career, switching careers,  leading a team, accepting responsibilities, starting a new job, and taking leaps of faith requires some amount of uncertainty to say “YES”.

To learn and grow, you will need to be willing to figure things out as you go and face new challenges with curiosity. This is the only way to create real value.

So, before you say,” I have no idea what I’m doing with my life”, take a deep breathe, smile and ask yourself, “If I didn’t have to have all the answers, what would I do next?” And then act accordingly.

  1. Stop Thinking You’ll Be Found Out

I have no idea what i'm doing with my life

Worrying that others will label you as the weak link, discover you’re a fraud or your parents will call will have to give you some lessons you seem not to have learnt will have you running around like a dog chasing its tail while second-guessing every move, doing your work simply in an effort to tick off boxes and please everyone else. And that evidently is one of the worst ways to spend your time.

So, the next time the fear of being found out surface again, ask yourself this: What would I do now if I was at my best? Because when you’re at you best, it simply means you have enough believe in yourself to take the next line of action knowing you’re already good enough to take it.

Thinking “I have no idea what I’m doing” is rarely true, or at least, does not matter. It’s FINE if you don’t have everything figured out- it’s most unlikely that even the best counsellor has all the answers you’re seeking for. What people say or think doesn’t mean anything. You must exercise a high degree of confidence when doing something for the first time. It doesn’t matter if you make mistakes or not, your ability to exhibit faith in yourself, hold your convictions dear and learning from past mistakes will build you into a successful individual.

Therefore, give every opportunity your best shot, gather experience form learning, and then take your next decision based on awareness and knowledge.

Doing your best is what matters. If you can do that, you’ll stop fretting about not knowing what you’re doing.

  1. Never trust in the Universe’s Plan

Destinies are not meant to wait for, they are meant to come to live through your actions. It is wrong to just sit down and expect THINGS TO WORK OUT-How will they? It is true that Life is full of ups and downs, but it is your responsibility to navigate through the storms of life to create your path.

Quit waiting or complaining and take hold of your life. An easy way to get out of your current problem is to ask, “What is the exact problem?” and then create a solution through another question: “How do I get rid of this?”

This is the first step to quit trusting without making moves to identify what you’re going to do with your life.

  1. Skip the train of “Faking it Until You Make It” Gang

It’s never enough to live your life based on what people think you are. Don’t join the mass number of “SOCIAL MEDIA BIG BOYS” who do nothing than post pictures of expensive wears, clothes, cars or houses.

Instead, stay true to yourself always. Admit it when you need help or are wrong and your life will be a whole lot easier.

  1. Do not play the “Blame Game”

I have no idea what i'm doing with my life

I often hear people say things like: I wish I had a better opportunity, my dad did not provide support, My friends caused it etc…..but the truth remains, there is really no excuse whatsoever. In fact, there is no such thing as the perfect opportunity and you must make use of every resource around you to receive direction for your life.

  1. Avoid Saying Things Like “I’m focused On Creating Myself, Not Finding Myself”

Countless humans across the globe are so focused on “finding themselves” as though some important piece of who they are is going to show up after they hit some great life milestone.  I don’t believe you are lost, I see you as a work in progress. Like raw clay prepared to be moulded into a fine shape.

  1. Accept that transition Happens to Everyone

Transition happens to everyone. However, you must never fail to move forward each time you discover something amazing about your life. You must give room to discover where you want your life to go.

These are steps to figure out your problem of i have no idea what i’m doing. Hope this post helped you figure out what to do each moment- The moment is yours!

 

 

Filed Under: Career

Comments

  1. Anchal Sarraf says

    at

    Your point 1 is so true and helpful to me….many times I think in this way that others are doing much better than what I am currently. But, Yes it is not true. I know I should learn to appreciate and focus on myself always.

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      My heart is gladdened that you appreciate and love yourself a whole lot better now. So happy for you

      Reply
  2. Ntensibe Edgar Michael says

    at

    Excellent tips to achieving greater heights in your life!!!

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      Thank you, Ntensibe. I am happy you like it

      Reply
  3. Tessa says

    at

    Great points! I loved that you mentioned feeling like we have to have everything figured out already. I would have never started a blog if I didn’t get over that fear first of realizing I would just have to learn as I went along. This is really motivating and inspirational, thanks for posting!

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      I am glad you feel this way. Time is precious and each time spent well is much better than years wasted on worry.

      Reply
  4. Christine says

    at

    I love your writing style and I love everything about your post. There is a lot of pressure out there that has been programmed into us that by a certain age, time or season that we need to meet these benchmarks and when we don’t we often feel like we are left behind. The result is not having all things figured out. There are soo many factors that lead us to feel this way and you tackled it very well in this post.

    Love your post and I’m looking forward to reading more from you.

    Christine at Travel&Flo

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      Hey Christine,

      Thanks for the sensational comment. I love what you said and the fact that you love the post shows that you can relate with it. Be sure to subscribe to our mail list to stay updated!

      Reply
  5. Clarice / Camping for Women says

    at

    These are great tips. I went through it a couple of years back. I believe that it is really very important to accept that changes happens to everyone.

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      That is correct, Clarice

      Reply
  6. Stacy says

    at

    Excellent blog! Very well written, and so many amazing advice tips!

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      Thanks Stacy,

      Reply
  7. Patricia G. says

    at

    I can relate to number #1 at times, especially in the past. However, now I just focus on what I do well and persevere in improving the things that I am not so good in. Eventually, I know I will do better, if I do not give up. I also like your advice to stop thinking you will be found out. I figure that as long as I live authentically and stay true to who I really am, I don’ t have to be hiding anything and thus will not be afraid of being “found out.”

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      Beautiful! I couldn’t agree more.

      Reply
  8. Karla says

    at

    All your tips are on point! Thank you for sharing this wonderful post. I’m 25 and I think I’m having a quarter life crises. I keep on asking myself what I’m doing with my life. This is very timely for me. Thank you!

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      I agree on this post being timely for you. I am glad it will be of great help to you in fuguring out what to do with your life.

      Reply
  9. Tiana says

    at

    I’m a bit iffy on #4 only because I feel like things happen for a reason (only to an extent). However, you made some great points and I the people who are most toxic are the ones who haven’t found themselves. I think focusing on yourself and your values is crucial

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      Thanks for adding another point, Tiana. Focusing on one’s self and value is good. However, you shouldn’t be too focused such that you miss out on life’s enjoyment and offers.

      Reply
  10. Leigh Ann says

    at

    I love your advice, especially about not assuming everyone else has it all together. I’ve been reflecting a lot on what career will truly make me happy after spending a year away from teaching. I’ve discovered that I love blogging and writing, so I’m making a go at it!

    Reply
    • Martins says

      at

      I am so glad you finally found your passion! I”m confident your new found love will take you to places. Keep writing and always believe in yourself.

      Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Get more stuff

Subscribe to our mailing list and get interesting stuff and updates to your email inbox.

Thank you for subscribing.

Something went wrong.

we respect your privacy and take protecting it seriously

Handcrafted with by Nollywood. Powered by Nolly Media Genesis Framework. Get in Touch.